I’m back in New York after a week spent in Michigan.
It flew by. I was busy. There wasn’t much time for writing which means there wasn’t much time for reflection. However, the conversations had proved to be fruitful. They provided me things to think about. These thoughts are typed out in my iPhone Notes under the folder “to write about”. I’ll get to them but I’d like to start with this one.
In recent posts on instagram I’ve written a lot about “getting there”. Most of us are living in a world of goal-setting and execution. Why? Because we believe that if we carve out a clear path to “success”, and if we follow it through to the end by grinding the life out of it and at times forcing it, we will reach a space of happiness and fulfillment. Yes, that very same space that many “successful” people IN THE UNKNOWN are looking to fill as they are in perpetual doubt they’ll ever find “it”. We are a society that is built on doing. If we’re not doing it means we are not living.
This is dangerous because it means that many of us miss out on all the things occurring while we’re looking ahead at the place we call “getting there”. Simply said: we are not present. Presence, in most cases, is considered not doing much of anything, therefore we skip over it because we believe we are meant to be doing more. However, presence is the very thing that we should consider focusing/doing more of if we are hoping to feel some sort of fulfillment. It is the only thing guaranteed because it is currently happening. Perhaps if we trick our minds into thinking that being is doing, then being present becomes an act of doing. You see?
Right now. You are reading me. Your ability to open up this email on your device by clicking on a rounded-square button, using your thumb to glide across the screen as you use your eyes to slowly scan the words I’ve written, then tucking away your forming thoughts into your brain, is an act of being present. How? Because you have made a choice to do what is occurring in the present moment and then are actively being present with it while you are doing. Make sense? The two are not mutually exclusive. Being can be Doing. Doing can be Being. When we frame things in this way, we can start to accumulate our accomplished blessings. Keep reading.
For someone like me, who too lacks in Confidence,
this framework allows my over-active and insecure mind to relax into the gooooodness that is always around me .
As someone who guides people to personal freedoms, it is imperative that I fill my cup up so that I can lead from fullness vs. emptiness. Knowing my tendencies and patterns, I had to come up with a way to trick my mind into believing in all my accomplishments so that I could gently re-wire my patterns into a place from where I can now sit with these “blessings” and fully believe that I am responsible for that which I create around me.
When I am FULL I am not seeking to FILL anything ie; I am not desperate, or static, or anxious, or forceful, or manipulative, etc. I am already WHOLE. Already THERE. Therefore, instead of trying to see from the depths of the valley, I am standing high on it’s peak, observant, confident, and present.
From this vantage point, not only can I better guide those around me, I can access the message that is inside of me without needing to go anywhere but here or be anyone but me.
I always have the Truth in me should I only stop to Listen. The same goes for you.
Remember: if you cannot be, just do the being. Trick the mind first and the rest will follow. Afterwards, acknowledge your accomplished blessings and fill yourself up with confidence and self-worth by writing these things down on paper. Not on your smart phone. ON PAPER by using a pen or pencil. Added bonus: highlight the ones you like most. WATCH THE PAPER LIGHT UP. That’s YOU. Shining BRIGHT!
Now with this CONFIDENCE IN YOU, stand on the peak and observe from this higher, brighter frequency. Do not press. Do not force. Do not worry. Do not run from the Discomfort. Do not try to hear when it is Silent. Simply do the being. Listen. The answers are all around you. Trust that they will come when they’re supposed to. Know that it takes time to re-wire what has been hardwired and continues to be on a daily basis.
Should you fall back down into the valley of doubt begin to write again all the accomplished blessings no matter how big or small, or reach out to a friend who can actively listen, or go to IN THE UNKNOWN, or use your finger to touch the rounded-square app to open this email and use your eyes to scan the words I’ve written. Whatever works best for you.
Learning. Growing. Exploring. Sharing.